If there is a garbage sorting system that separates junk men from non-spam men and separates different types of junk men, then we can minimize the harm of junk men.
This garbage sorting system is called divorce.
Only divorce can distinguish the garbage man from what garbage, how to deal with it.
If you don't divorce, junk men and good-hearted women can not only be classified, but also poison good.
However, our country’s marriage system seems to naturally exclude divorce and treats divorce as harmful waste that destroys family harmony.
According to《婚姻法》, the criterion for the court to decide the divorce is that the marital relationship has indeed broken down.
As a former judge who has tried many divorce cases, I have to say that this standard is very nonsense.
How to define the feelings, the psychologists who specialize in marriage counseling are difficult to determine, and what is the judge's decision?
At the age of 24, I became a judge and the first case I handled was a divorce case.
A young man who has not yet experienced marriage, what diagnosis, this marriage has died?
The Marriage Law and related judicial interpretations list some situations in which the relationship between husband and wife can be determined to be broken.
Needless to say, these refinement standards are not logically justified. From the perspective of proof, every standard is difficult to prove.
For example, due to emotional disharmony for two years.
Excuse me, how to prove separation in two years? We do not have a notarization or a lawyer's attestation system.
Even if it proves to be separated for two years, how can it prove that it is separated by feelings of disharmony?
Let the judge judge the death of the marriage with a standard that is difficult to judge, just like letting the doctor judge the death of a person by the naked eye without using the instrument.
xxThe standard of confusion and the complexities of divorce cases, the judge is very cautious in deciding whether to grant a divorce, as cautious as a medical accident.
The safest way for a judge is to refuse a divorce when the person first sue.
This is a well-known unwritten practice in Chinese judicial practice.
This formula is toxic!
On one occasion, a group of prosecutors sent a torture to the soul in the WeChat group:
Why can't you divorce a divorce if you are divorced?
It turned out that she had handled a criminal case. The woman had filed a lawsuit against the divorce. The man insisted that the court did not leave. After that, the woman filed a lawsuit against the divorce. The court did not open the case and the man used the knife to bow to the woman.
If the court decides the divorce when the woman first sues the divorce, can the tragedy be avoided?
A man who may be wet garbage has not been separated by the garbage sorting system. Instead, it has been continuously corrupted in the garbage dump and eventually turned into incorrigible hazardous waste.
Therefore, our divorce system is actually a very bad garbage disposal system without garbage classification:
Garbage and non-waste are not divided, dry and wet are not divided, and hazardous and recyclable waste are not divided.
The Chinese have a strong family ethic and look at the home as big as the sky. Any behavior that appears to be detrimental to the family is considered garbage.
We may feel that the divorce system based on emotional breakdown is bad, but this bad system was regarded as a flood beast at the beginning of its birth.
1980《婚姻法》Revised, the first time the relationship broke down as a legal divorce reason was written into the law, divorce became easier than before 1980.
xxAt that time, many women felt that this law was very rubbish. It does not protect women but protects garbage men.
In 1983, the "Qin Xianglian Visiting Group" consisting of 36 women went to the All-China Women's Federation to petition, suing their husbands as "Chen Shimei" and even alarmed the Central Committee.
Under the central question, 36 "Chen Shimei" did not "run".
However, in the next 10 years, 36 "Qin Xianglian" and 36 "Chen Shimei" were separated.
Like the demise of life, the death of a marriage does not depend on the will of the parties.
"Qin Xianglian" did not realize or realized at the time but did not want to admit:
When their husbands filed for divorce, their marriage was “dead”.
The statutory standard of emotional breakdown cannot maintain marriage, and the judicial practice of prosecuting judgments for the first time cannot be.
There is a judgment that does not leave, citing《圣经.马太福音》, demonstrating that the marital relationship may be reconciled, and is called "the most divorce judgment in history" by some online media.
Children's shoes that have written divorce judgments know that this is basically a slap.
How do you judge that their marital relationship may be better?
If they can't reconcile, have you given the divorce judgment to eat?
According to my personal case handling experience: 99% of divorce cases have existed in name only in the first lawsuit.
If 99% of divorce cases can be decided, what about 1% of marriages?
If you don't really want to get a divorce, you can withdraw the case and you can mediate; if you can reconcile, you can remarry after the divorce.
The so-called judgment is not separated, but it is only a paper that can not solve the problem to maintain the vital signs of marriage, making it a "plant man" of brain death.